Raising children is nothing new. Parents have been raising children for at least 100,000 years, right?
Isn’t it funny how it seems that we’re still trying to figure it out?
There is a wealth of books, professions and research dedicated to the phenomenon of human development and it’s our natural desire to want concrete answers on life’s biggest questions. Yet, historically we’ve also come to recognize that there is a lot of mystery to human development.
So, how do we honor ourselves as a parent in the dance between the known and the unknown?
I like to think that the closest we as individuals can get to the mystery of human design is to get to know and grow ourselves at the deepest, most spiritual level.
I am the only one accountable to me. And I'm not accountable to anyone else.
So, as a parent this mindset has the power to shift our responsibility from figuring your child out to learning enough about your child (nature) to be able to design an environment (nurture) that allows your child to figure himself out.
Your child is already whole. You just get to be part of his journey.
Wouldn't it be incredibly freeing if we really allowed ourselves to approach our relationship with our children in this way? What if we eliminated the idea that we had complete responsibility for how our children "turned out" and just allowed them the freedom to explore themselves?
With a healthy, supportive environment, you have the power to guide him in knowing and becoming the best version of his unique self.
And isn’t that truly the beauty of raising humans?
This post is a snippet of the free eBook, Lead and Follow; Learning to Dance with the Art and Science of Raising Humans. If this approach sounds great, but you're not sure where to start, I invite you to check it out.