There's something nagging at me today and I feel like someone needs to hear it.
I want to give you permission to do that thing that has been pulling on your heart for so long.
If you want to pursue your own business, I give you permission.
If you want to sign up your kid for a couple days of daycare without income to support it, I give you permission.
If you want to cut back your work hours or quit your job all together so you can be home with your kids, I give you permission.
If you want to go back to work, I give you permission.
If you want to leave a toxic circle of friends, I give you permission.
If you want to book an Airbnb all to yourself for a weekend, I give you permission.
Because here's the thing. We are intuitive beings. Yet, we are constantly told by the experts how to be mothers to our children. There are so many expectations shoved in our faces and quite honestly, they all contradict themselves anyway. You have way more insight into what's next for you and your children than anyone else and it's time you honored that.
I've done everything on that list above. I've been a full-time working mom, full-time stay-at-home mom, a part-time working mom, a mompreneuer. I currently send my 2-year-old to daycare and I don't take an income from my business and I enjoyed a much-needed weekend to myself recently.
Here's what I've learned.
If you don't do it, you'll wonder about it forever. Then resentment will set it. And if you think life with kids is stressful now, it will only get more toxic with a giant dose of resentment. You will blame them, your partner and probably the whole world for holding you back.
I've learned that whatever that thing is will not be as glamorous as you think it is. Taking care of yourself while raising kids will still be hard. It will come with a new set of tough stuff that will make you question your decision.
But I've also learned that the discovery process is the important part. We don't know that we actually miss our kids or our partners unless we are away from them. We don't know that we don't like MOPS until we try it. We don't know that although we crave time to ourselves, we actually prefer to share a meal with our families at the end of the day.
Curiosity is underrated. Especially in motherhood. It needs more attention. So here's the permission you need to explore your curiosity, learn a little more about yourself and do that thing that your gut knows is the best next step.
I invite you to check out the free journaling guide, Lead and Follow; Learning to Dance with the Art and Science of Raising Humans, designed to help you uncover the root of your child's behavior challenges.